I too am looking at venturing down this road, and looking for advice.
I have just found this site, so today is my first real look around.
what I can tell you is 12 months ago, I went to IVF Sydney (now Genea) and had my eggs frozen, and from all that I understand, when I find a donor, and I use Genea, I am legaly protected. from what I can see the Birth mother is considered the legal parent, and the donor doesn't have the legal custody, so to speak, but I suggest you all seek your own legal council, for each of your situations, which I also have done, out side of Genea
What I'm trying to work out is If I chose to Co-parent, what does that mean.
A couple of friends have suggested I write a list, of what I want, and why I want it, basically what are my bounderies in this situation? I Mean, we don't want visitation rights for some random person.
So maybe my choice is interstate. and Name and a christmas card, but open to the child/children, contact him later, for a beer or a soda, I don't know??
what I have done is spoken to a couple of my besties, with kids, to ask them to think of things, I should consider in thinking about what I want from a donor.
In my plans for this step, I also have asked a couple of friends, who are thinking about it, and one who's said I'm flattered, but no.
I guess, knowing the boys who may donate, give you a totally different perspective, & what you're willing to allow, consider.
Anyway, girls, not sure where, how you want to discuss this further, but please, I'd love to hear your thoughts, or findings......
Here's to successful 'donor/co parenting'